last modified: Thursday, August 04, 2005 (10:26:58 PM)
I know many people are strong and independent. When a problem comes along, they whip it (haha). They believe there is no situation they cannot handle. However, sometimes, a situation is too big for one person to manage all alone. They do more harm to themselves and others by not accepting outside assistance. Whether it is advice or intervention, sometimes a solution can be reached when other people are involved.
Now, I'm guilty of this myself. For many years, I felt my problems were my own and I should cope however possible. That mentality can be confused with confidence. It's just a disguise. If you look at the ones you love, you are harming them. You are refusing to allow them into your life, fully.
Discussing our worries and concerns is healthy. People are social animals: we live in cliques, packs, groups, gangs, communities, cities, states, countries. There is a wealth of resources and support available to us if we just look up.
You cannot make someone accept your help. They must naturally come to this conclusion themselves. But, speaking from experience, I hurt the people I love because I shut them out. Reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness. And watching someone you love struggle, refusing your good intentions, is difficult as well. It feels like punishment.
Ultimately, we are all different and cope in different ways. Some people seek the constant aid of others, while some people shoulder all the burden upon themselves. Neither extreme is healthy or productive. Be strong and independent, but not at the expense of your own well-being and the well-being of those around you. http://welcomeconsumer.com