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Mother's Day
last modified: Sunday, May 08, 2005 (1:17:40 AM)
Today is Mother's Day and while I am a mother and I have no idea what they have in store for me, I am also a daughter.

My mom has Alzheimers and has lived with us for the past 3 years. It's really no big thing. I have a wonderful supportive husband who understands why I have to do this. My girls do accept the situation, and kind of understand why Granny doesn't know who they are. I am lucky in a way, to have so much support. But on a day like today I am reminded of what I've really lost. She doesn't know my name, or remember who I am. She knows me as a kind and helpful person but that is all. On a day like today I am reminded that my mom's body is here, her face is here, but the thing that made her my mom is gone, probably forever. (yes I live in hope) Her memories, her mind are gone and well it just makes me sad. Especially today. I will hug her and give her a card and all today, but it's just a formality.

Someday this disease will be like polio, something people from decades past suffered from. But for now I live in hope and love my mom the best I can. What else can you do?

Happy Mothers Day.
re: Mother''s DaySunday, May 08, 2005 - 2:38:20 AM

I''m not sure really what to say, but I had to send a supportive note and some hugs through RS when I read your entry. One of our family''s very dearest friends struggled with Alzheimer''s for many, many years. It is truly a terrible disease, and heartbreaking in so many ways. The wonderful thing is that you know you''ll never have any regrets over the care given to your mom, or her quality of life during this time. I hope you have a wonderful mother''s day with your own kiddos, and that you are able to draw upon some very happy memories of your mom to take away the not-so-happy present. *hugs*

re: Mother''s DaySunday, May 08, 2005 - 4:44:14 AM


re: Mother''s DayMonday, May 09, 2005 - 1:12:09 PM

Bacon-kun, I had no idea. I hope you know that I am always here for you no matter what.

And now I feel really bad griping to you about the framing lady...